Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change
In our personal lives, vulnerability is a familiar companion. Whether overwhelmed as a parent, frustrated in relationships, or struggling at work, we instinctively reach out to trusted friends and family. This openness, while exposing our imperfections, connects us deeply with those we choose wisely—those who listen without judgment. The result? A shift in perspective that often leads to growth and self-efficacy.
Yet, at work, this openness seems misplaced. The fear of being seen as weak or incompetent looms large, shadowed by self-doubt and a perceived threat to our professional image. This juxtaposition raises a critical question: Is suppressing vulnerability truly professional, considering its impact on our growth and performance?
Dr. Brené Brown, renowned for her work on courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, offers a compelling viewpoint which invites us to rethink our approach to vulnerability in the workplace. She asserts,
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”
Consider a simple exercise: Find a quiet place, reflect on a work challenge, and imagine sharing it openly. What emotions surface? Fear, hope, relief? This introspection reveals a universal truth—we can't escape vulnerability if we aim to improve our situation and well-being.
Preparing to be vulnerable, much like rehearsing for an important presentation, can be transformative. It involves clarity of thought, understanding our emotions, and practicing our delivery, ideally with a trusted person or even in front of a mirror. This preparation not only eases the actual conversation but also helps us navigate our emotions more effectively.
Dr. Brown notes a paradox in our perception of vulnerability: We admire it in others as courage yet often view it in ourselves as weakness. This dichotomy brings two crucial reflections: First, our attitude in showing vulnerability matters. Second, understanding the root of our vulnerability is key.
The Transactional Analysis model by Dr. Eric Roger
Embracing vulnerability in the workplace is deeply influenced by how we choose to open up, a concept beautifully illustrated by Dr. Eric Roger's Transactional Analysis model. This model categorizes our approach into three states: Child, Adult, and Parent.
Child State: When we open up from this state, we embody feelings of being small, helpless, or powerless, akin to a child. This often elicits a parental response from others, either in the form of comfort or judgment. The resulting dynamic can make us feel diminished, as if we are losing face. The discomfort here arises not from the act of vulnerability itself, but from the powerless stance we adopt.
Adult State: This state is characterized by stability, authenticity, and a recognition of our capabilities and limitations. Here, we acknowledge that while we are grown and competent, we don't have all the answers. Opening up from the adult state allows us to seek support without undermining our self-esteem. It's about confronting vulnerability with courage and self-awareness, leading to clarity and actionable steps forward.
Parent State: This state reflects the internalized attitudes and rules learned from our parents. When we're in the Parent State, we may exhibit behaviors that are either nurturing or controlling. This includes using authoritative language, setting strict rules, or offering comfort and guidance. In the workplace, acting from this state can lead to either supportive or overly directive interactions, influencing the dynamics of communication and authority.
Conclusion: The Power of Vulnerability in Professional Growth
Incorporating the insights of Brené Brown and Eric Rogers, we see that vulnerability in the workplace is not a weakness, but a doorway to innovation and personal growth. In addition, recognizing whether we respond from a Child, Adult, or Parent State can profoundly influence the way we choose to approach conversations, challenges and collaborations.
